Figuring Out the Next Steps To Take After a LDR Breakup

September 3rd, 2017 marks two years since the very day I first started dating Jorge. To think two years have already passed since then is hard to believe. The amount of memories Jorge and I have created together in that period of time is unbelievable. So much has happened in the last two years! Yet, it has gone by so fast. When you factor in all the time we spent physically apart, it becomes that much more incredible. That is part of the beauty of a long distance relationship: you learn to value time in a different way. Every day (heck, sometimes every minute) counts and you cherish every waking moment of every day like never before.

Two years ago today, when I first spoke to this cute boy from Spain who I found living in the U.S. for a year, I recognized any potential future between us was highly uncertain and unpredictable. I still allowed myself to bond and fall in love with a guy who I probably had the very worst logistical odds of ever developing a successful relationship with all because I saw the potential for something bigger. My heart took the lead and I believed it was more important to try to love and possibly fail than to fail to try and live with regret.

Although we broke up about a month ago, I’m proud to look back on the last two years with not a single regret. Not one.

I created this video highlighting a few of my favorite memories from the past two years because I’m mourning the end of the best relationship I’ve ever had and I still want to celebrate some of the best times of my life. This blog is all about celebrating the good times and the bad. Although the last few weeks have been pretty rough, this felt like an opportunity to refocus some positive energy on memories worth celebrating.

As of very recently, Jorge and I have been back in limited contact with one another. Unfortunately, it remains very much unclear what the future has in store for us, if anything at all. It is my sincere hope that our memories don’t end here but with all the uncertainty happening in our lives, I choose to celebrate today.

Speaking of celebrating relationships, I’d also like to wish both of my parents a Happy Anniversary today. What a funny coincidence. I am slightly embarrassed to admit I’ve never made that connection until now.

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  1. Hey Rocky,

    It’s been some time since I last commented or even looked at your blog. I haven’t been giving my blog or anyone else’s blog much thought this past year but, today I logged back on after some time and wrote a few posts to put in my queue for the week and your blog was one of the blogs I remembered that stood out to me. So, I decided to revisit it. I’m glad I did.

    I remember when you first considered dating Jorge. I honestly think it may be one of the last posts I read of yours before I lost interest in blogging for a while.

    Anyway, I just wanted to comment to say I’m glad you’re still at it and I hope to be as focused as you are because I really think it helps to clear my mind.

    Also, I have to say, I think it takes a lot of determination to make a long distance relationship work. I have a ‘penpal’ of some sorts I met when I was visiting Trondheim, Norway this past January. We have kept in touch over several months and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we ever ended up together. Even though I know I don’t have the patience to make it work.

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